9. Heartcuddles Easy-going Elfie the Elephant
Number nine personality style is Elfie the Elephant. Elfie children exhibit traits of being calm, patient, and forgiving. They thrive in a structured routine and tend to avoid conflicts. Known for their unselfconscious nature, humor, creativity, and vivid imagination, Elfies can easily blend in with their peers. They may have diverse interests, but often do not delve deeply into any particular one. Elfies have a natural inclination to see the bright side of situations, even in challenging times. However, their quiet and peaceful demeanor may sometimes lead them to experience a "middle child syndrome," feeling overshadowed by an accomplished older sibling or a demanding younger one.
Elfie children have a strong affinity for all things creative and crafty. They find solace in daydreaming and often retreat into their own imaginative worlds. Unfortunately, their trusting nature and belief in the honesty of others make them vulnerable to manipulation by their peers. These children have learned to adopt a relaxed and easy-going demeanor in order to navigate the complexities of the world. They believe that by avoiding conflict, everything will turn out fine. At times, this approach can be taken to the extreme, causing them to suffer silently without voicing their concerns or upsetting their parents. While fading into the background may seem like a safer option for an Elfie, it ultimately leads to the problem of not being heard or acknowledged, which can result in growing into an adult with little self-worth.
Personality traits often seen in Elfie the Elephant children:
- Easygoing
- Popular
- Exude a calming presence
- Happy to let others be themselves
- Enjoy entertaining themselves
- Calm - they do not like to show off
- Creative and imaginative
Parents can help their Elfie children grow socially and emotionally by listening to them and just being with them, letting them know that they’re important to you. Teach them to assert themselves when necessary, encourage them to journal their thoughts and feelings, and help them to focus and prioritize. Since Elfies often feel overlooked, it can be a big help to them to simply ask them what they want, rather than them just accepting whatever others suggest. Encourage them to be spontaneous, take risks and make changes to help them experience more of what life has to offer. It is common for Elfies to become enmeshed with their parent, feeling secure as an extension of them. However, in times of trouble, they may easily shift the blame onto their parent, so it is important to foster their individuality and help them discover their own self-worth.
Examples of Elfies in modern culture include Winnie the Pooh by AA Milne, Goofy in the Disney cartoons, and Horton Hears a Who by Dr. Seuss.
Products that can help your Elfie the Elephant child feel seen and loved include a lunch bag, baby bib, Mylar balloon, and more.
